Marital Problems

The Power of the Tongue

The Power of the Tongue Who of us hasn’t had the experience of saying something we wished we hadn’t said?  It’s a universal issue, and it has been for centuries.  Ini the book of James, we read about the difficulty … Continue reading

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When a Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex Anymore

When a Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex Anymore I was asked this question a couple of weeks ago by two subscribers to tv.newlife.com.  Both had good marriages, but when their husbands hit the 50’s, they were no longer interested in … Continue reading

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A Deadly Triangle

A Deadly Triangle There’s a fascinating old book and the title says it all–My Mother; My Self.  It is about the high potential for daughters to struggle with a symbiotic relationship with their mothers–showing how difficult it can be for … Continue reading

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Why We Have Sex

Why We Have Sex When asked this question, the wife said, “I do it for him,” and the husband responded by saying that afterwards, he often felt guilty about their having had sex because he felt so selfish.  Somehow he … Continue reading

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Cohabiting–A Consequence of Attachment Issues?

We’ve talked in an earlier posting about how couples connect with each other.  (http://drstoop.com/how-husbands-and-wives-connect-emotionally/)  How we learn to connect emotionally is described as a part of attachment theory, which was first articulated by Sir John Bowlby in the middle of … Continue reading

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Cohabiting–Sliding vs. Deciding – Part 2

The idea of cohabiting before marriage is a major dynamic in our culture today.  The behavior is so common that it unexpectedly affects divorce statistics, which are dropping slightly.  The cause of the slight decline in divorce is that fewer … Continue reading

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Cohabiting–Sliding vs. Deciding

One of the rapidly growing trends in our culture today is to ignore getting married and to just start living together.  My good friend, Scott Stanley, a researcher at the University of Denver, has studied this subject extensively and the … Continue reading

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The Complacent Marriage

I’ve talked with a number of couples recently who came to marriage counseling because   their marriage had grown stale.  The obvious symptom they describe is that they feel like they are just roommates.  There’s little or no sense of … Continue reading

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Defensive Hope

Recently we had a caller on the New Life Live radio and TV program who asked us if she should give up hope that her husband would change.  Her husband had left her two years ago and during that time … Continue reading

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How Husbands and Wives Connect Emotionally

Husbands, especially, are in the dark when their wife says to him something like, “I just don’t feel connected to you.”  Understanding what a connection means to his wife is, to him,  like trying to unravel an unresolvable mystery. The … Continue reading

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