Tag Archives: Marital Problems
Defensive Hope
Recently we had a caller on the New Life Live radio and TV program who asked us if she should give up hope that her husband would change. Her husband had left her two years ago and during that time … Continue reading
How Husbands and Wives Connect Emotionally
Husbands, especially, are in the dark when their wife says to him something like, “I just don’t feel connected to you.” Understanding what a connection means to his wife is, to him, like trying to unravel an unresolvable mystery. The … Continue reading
So What Does Every Husband Fear? – Part 2
In part 1, we described a wife’s basic fear as the experience of feeling disconnected from her significant others, but especially from her husband. That’s the purpose behind her use of a man’s most feared words–”Honey, we need to talk.” … Continue reading
The Five Most Feared Words a Wife Can Say – Part 1
There are five words that when spoken by a wife are the five most feared words every husband dreads hearing. I’ve said them to an audience and asked men what they think when they hear these words, and they answer … Continue reading
“But I Don’t Believe in Divorce!”
I hear this this statement often and I understand the pain that it represents. In our “no-fault” divorce society, it only takes one spouse to divorce and when the other spouse who doesn’t want the divorce protests, they will often … Continue reading
The Pressure to be Extraverted
Our oldest son is also an introvert. He works in the world of computers, developing products and programs with a team of other engineer types, most of whom are also introverted. You would think they would consider the fact that … Continue reading
The World of the Extravert
I remember when one of our sons participated in a three-month outreach program in Mexico. The group he was with went on their own bus and camped out along the way until they got to their destination. When they finished … Continue reading
Introversion and Your Marriage
Remember the old saying, “opposites attract?” The truth is that opposites do attract each other, but not total opposites. Most couples are opposite on some traits, and the same on other traits. But in my marriage, when it comes to … Continue reading
“We Don’t Communicate,” So They Typically Say
I think the #1 problem presented to me by a couple coming for marriage counseling is the complaint that they just don’t know how to communicate. That’s an interesting comment, especially in light of what I remember one of my … Continue reading
Marriage Counseling Can Be Hazardous to your Marriage – Part 3
One of the things I often encounter is a spouse who presents me with a psychological diagnosis of their partner. When I ask them how they came up with this diagnosis, usually the answer will be that it came from … Continue reading