Marriage
Some Thoughts on Intimacy and Marriage
Some Thoughts on Intimacy and Marriage I’’m certain you’ve all heard the old adage that men spell intimacy with three letters–SEX. Women spell intimacy with four letters–TALK. It’s one of the consequences of original sin. A man typically thinks you … Continue reading
One Way to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage
One Way to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage How often do you actually celebrate your spouse? How long since you’ve gone out of your way to show your spouse you care? If it hasn’t been at least since yesterday, you might be … Continue reading
How Love Grows – Part 4
How Love Grows – Part 4 It is important to remember, if have been reading these resent posts, that when we get to the third stage in the growth of love, we are not extinguishing the first two stages of … Continue reading
How Love Grows – Part 3
How Love Grows – Part 3 The goal for love in a marriage is to reach the third stage of love. We define this stage of love as “I love you for who you are.” Now we move beyond loving … Continue reading
How Love Grows– Part 2
How Love Grows– Part 2 The next stage of love’s growth could be described as “Love Performs.” Or to say it similar to how Bernard said it, “I love you for what you do for me.” Obviously, part of … Continue reading
How Love Grows – Part 1
How Love Grows – Part 1 I don’t know if Bernard, the 12th Century monk, would be amused to find that someone has taken his book On Loving God, and turned his ideas into describing how love grows in a … Continue reading
Some Marriage Rules We Don’t Often Talk About
As I have worked with couples, I’ve noticed that some of the big rules, like fidelity and being truthful, are well known. But here are some other “rules” I find that couples aren’t always aware of, or if they are … Continue reading
The Power of Perseverance
In one of his books, Malcolm Gladwell tells of a research project that was designed test the ability of elementary children to persevere when faced withj an impossible task. Children from both the United States and Japan participated in the … Continue reading
Some LIttle Things To Keep Your Marriage Strong
Couples are often embarrassed when they come to counseling and begin to describe the problems they are facing. They say something like, “These issues seem so small when we actually describe them.” But it’s the small things that hurt a … Continue reading
The Truth About Love
C. S. Lewis described love this way: “Love, in the Christian sense, does not mean an emotion. It is a state not of the feelings but of the will; that state of the will which we have naturally about ourselves … Continue reading