Marital Problems

In part 1, we described a wife’s basic fear as the experience of feeling disconnected from her significant others, but especially from her husband.  That’s the purpose behind her use of a man’s most feared words–”Honey, we need to talk.”  … Continue reading →

There are five words that when spoken by a wife are the five most feared words every husband dreads hearing.  I’ve said them to an audience and asked men what they think when they hear these words, and they answer … Continue reading →

I hear this this statement often and I understand the pain that it represents.  In our “no-fault” divorce society, it only takes one spouse to divorce and when the other spouse who doesn’t want the divorce protests, they will often … Continue reading →

I remember when one of our sons participated in a three-month outreach program in Mexico.  The group he was with went on their own bus and camped out along the way until they got to their destination.  When they finished … Continue reading →

Remember the old saying, “opposites attract?”  The truth is that opposites do attract each other, but not total opposites.  Most couples are opposite on some traits, and the same on other traits.  But in my marriage, when it comes to … Continue reading →

I think the #1 problem presented to me by a couple coming for marriage counseling is the complaint that they just don’t know how to communicate.  That’s an interesting comment, especially in light of what I remember one of my … Continue reading →

One of the things I often encounter is a spouse who presents me with a psychological diagnosis of their partner.  When I ask them how they came up with this diagnosis, usually the answer will be that it came from … Continue reading →

In our last posting we looked at how counselors who are not trained in working with couples or families can get overwhelmed when there is more than one other person in the counseling room with them.  What they typically do … Continue reading →

So how can marriage counseling be a hazard to someone’s marriage?  William Doherty,  who trains marriage counselors at the University of Minnesota, made a speech on this subject, and in that speech he quoted a national survey of therapists that … Continue reading →