Marriage & Family Matters
Why We Yell at Our Kids
Why We Yell at Our Kids Nearly every parent yells at their kids, some do it more than others. Research says that 3 out of 4 parents will yell at their kids at least once a month. Part of the … Continue reading
Why Parents Should Talk to their Infants?
Why Parents Should Talk to their Infants? Have you ever wondered why mothers, in particular, talk to their tiny infants? After all, the infant doesn’t understand a word she is saying, and even a toddler seemingly can’t understand most of … Continue reading
What are Some of Your Secrets?
What are Some of Your Secrets? Adults,like children, are fascinated with secrets. An article in the Wall Street Journal pointed out that 95% of people report having a fact or bit of information about themselves that they haven’t reveal to … Continue reading
When Is a Lie Not a Lie?
When Is a Lie Not a Lie? A little girl, named Mary, is coming home from school without her mother meeting her for the first time. When she arrives home, her mother is full of questions: “How did it go?” … Continue reading
Types of Families – Part 4
Types of Family – Part 4 Here are five other descriptions of family types. The first is what I call the “Generational Split” family. The distinguishing characteristic of this kind of family is a lack of significant interaction between parents … Continue reading
Types of Families – Part 3
Types of Families – Part 3 Using the placement of the scores on the two scales–the Cohesion scale and the Adaptability scale–we can identify five basic family types. The more extreme the placement on the scales, the more problematic that … Continue reading
Types of Families – Part 2
Types of Families – Part 2 We’re looking at the types of families based on the research of David Olson and his associates at the University of Minnesota, and their development of the FACES IV inventory. In the last posting, … Continue reading
Types of Families – Part 1
Types of Families – Part 1 Someone asked if there were ways to categorize family types, like there is a way to categorize attachment styles. There are probably several ways to mark the types of families, but the most accepted … Continue reading
What Kind of Boundaries in your Family?
What Kind of Boundaries in your Family? One of the things families typically don’t talk about is how boundaries work within the family. We are talking about psychological and social boundaries, although in principle they are the same as physical … Continue reading
What Were the Rules in Your Family?
What Were the Rules in Your Family? Every family operates according to a set of rules. These rules may be spoken or unspoken. Nevertheless they exist and they affect our family’s activities and behaviors. Even without saying a word, our … Continue reading