Marriage & Family Matters

Another Advantage to Being an Introvert An interesting study reported in the Academy of Management Journal, underscores what Susan Cain pointed out in her book Quiet.  Businesses, and especially business schools, are drawn to the extroverted personalities, but it is … Continue reading →

What Makes You Happy? I’ve argued with people who insist that their goal in life is to be happy.  I asked them, “How will you make that happen?”  And usually that’s where the conversation gets bogged down.  My point that … Continue reading →

A Couple’s Support System As you read this, my wife Jan and I will be driving up to central California to spend five days with some very special people.  We call ourselves “D’tenavus,” for there used to be ten of … Continue reading →

Your Brain, Your Memory, and Your Future We often think of memory as the ability to recall past events and experiences, with an emphasis on the past.  But researchers are now looking at how our memory affects our ability to … Continue reading →

I wonder if one never told a lie to their spouse if life would become as chaotic as it was for Jim Carrey’s character in the movie, Liar, Liar.  Yet there are some who think that spouses have to be … Continue reading →

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I be more creative?”  We may often ask that question of ourselves when we cannot think of a new idea regardless of how hard we try.  Maybe the reason we draw a blank … Continue reading →

Sometimes we think something is wrong if our kids argue with each other, or if the parents fight with each other, or if a kid fights with a parent.  But the truth is, spouses fight and siblings argue.  In fact, … Continue reading →

In our last posting, we said that Individuation means basically that we have successfully become our own self, rather than just an extension of someone else, such as a parent.  It’s like when all the pieces of who I am … Continue reading →

I’m preparing to teach a new course at Fuller Theological Seminary this summer on Personality, Theology, and Pastoral Counseling.  It’s a new class for me to teach, as well.  I think the only place it’s been offered before is at … Continue reading →

I remember that in one of my statistics classes the professor said at the beginning of the semester that we needed to know that in life, we would find “there are liars, then there are damnable liars, and then there … Continue reading →