What’s Different About This Marriage Weekend?
Over the years, Jan and I have led a number of marriage weekend retreats across the country. But this July 26-28, 2013, we are co-leading the New Life Marriage weekend in Dallas, Texas, and it is quite different. (Check it out at www.newlife.com.) Before telling you what’s different about this weekend, here are comments from two couples who attended the last New Life Marriage weekend.
“Before coming to the New Life Marriage weekend, I was sleeping the garage. I hadn’t spoken to my wife for 20 days. On Tuesday–3 days before the weekend retreat was to take place–she finally spoke to me and said, “We need to go.” She signed us up. I booked the room and rented the car. We drove 24 hours through the night to get there. When it started, I was very anxious, very tired, and extremely skeptical. I couldn’t remember going more than a day without tension.
“The weekend was a big awakening and breakthrough. As early as Friday night, God had begun to really speak to each of us. By the end on Sunday, so much stress and weight had been removed. Now we are able to look each other in the eyes. We pray together, laugh together and I find myself smiling for the first time in a long time.”
The other couple said, “Before coming to the weekend, we knew we had no marriage left. We didn’t live together and my husband wanted a divorce. We had NO connection other that the necessary exchange of information.
“The weekend has been all that I could have hoped for. I was taught, entertained, and loved by the speakers and my counselor, along with the great people we met who were in our group. Since coming home, my husband is actually nurturing me!!! We now have the tools and resources to make it a great marriage.”
So why is this weekend different? Most marriage conference attendees sit together, listen and take notes. Hopefully they talk about what they heard later in the room, or at least in the car returning home.
Not this weekend. First, Jan and I co-lead several presentations. That’s not what’s different. It’s not even that Kay and Milan Yerkovich co-lead several other presentations. It’s what happens when when our sessions end. At that point, you as a couple go to a group with 3 or 4 other couples who are at about the same level in their marriages. The group is led by a professional marriage counselor who is trained in how to work with couples. What you had just heard in the presentation session gets discussed, taken apart, and applied in a personal way to each couple’s situation. Questions are answered and deep issues rise to the surface to be finally dealt with.That’s what I think makes the difference. Check it out, sign up, and meet us in Dallas.
Question: What’s scary for you about attending that kind of marriage weekend? What do you hope could be addressed in your marriage?