It’s not easy to tell the whole truth. Jim Carrey’s character finds this out in the movie Liar, Liar, where he portrays a lawyer who often is too busy for his son. So for a birthday wish, his son wishes that it would be impossible for his father to tell a lie for a whole day. His wish is granted. And there are some hilarious scenes as a result.
in fact, everyone lies. Parents lie to their children. They make up excuses for why the child can’t do something, or why the parent can’t do something for or with their child. We call them “excuses,” when they really are lies.
And children lie to their parents, Kids are very creative in their lies, sometimes so creative that their parents see right through them. Parents punish their children for lying, but, fortunately for parents, their children can’t punish them for their lies.
Husbands iie to their wives and wives lie to their husbands. We’re not talking about the big lies here, only the little ones, lIke, “Oh, I’ve had this dress for ages,” when in reality she bought it only a few weeks ago and hid it until now Or, “She doesn’t need to know about the speeding ticket I got today. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.”
The issue of truth is an issue of trust. The basic foundation of any marriage, and of any healthy family, is that there is a blanket of trust that covers the people involved. Over time, the little lies begin to chip away at trust.
The underlying principle about openness and truth in a marriage or a family is found in Ephesians 4:15, where Paul says we are to “speak the truth in love.” This principle is also the foundation for what he teaches later on in the chapter, where he says, “So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors (and our spouse and family), the truth, for we are all parts of the same body” (verse 25). This is a repeat of what the Old Testament prophet, Zechariah said, “But this is what you must do: Tell the truth to each other.”
Family therapist Frank Pittman makes this illustration. “I often point out to people that if I gave them detailed instructions on how to go from Atlanta to New York City, and I threw in only one left turn that was a lie, they would end up in Oklahoma.” That’s what happens when we leave out one little detail that would change a whole story.
We all have trouble with the little lies. Where do you have trouble telling the truth?